A breakup can come as a serious emotional setback for any man or woman. Relationships fill our hearts and they give us the strength to fight in life. However, when a relationship on which you have been banking a lot falls apart, suddenly everything seems to become too tough to carry on. When a breakup happens, particularly when it was not you who wanted to get over the relationship, it is sure to take an emotional toll. No matter how difficult it is for you to accept that you are no more an essential part in the life of the person with whom you have been sharing yourself even yesterday, it is important that you gather yourself together and move on with life.
A person who might seem indispensable in your life today, in reality, can be a distant past tomorrow. So, even if you have gone through the worst kind of breakup, there is actually nothing to ruin yourself and your life for it. If you have been through a breakup lately and you are finding it difficult to come over it, follow the phrases we have added here to teach yourself one of the most important lessons of life, that is, “love thyself”.
“I am in love with me”
This phrase might seem meaningless but it is one of the most important phrases that you can tell yourself and believe to get over the trauma of a sudden breakup. No matter how much you have loved the person who has just left you, it is important to love yourself first. You must be the most important person to yourself, even more important than the person you loved. Learning to love yourself is the first lesson of life that can help you to open the door of happiness. Loving yourself is most vital to not only have a successful relationship but also to have a fulfilling life. Criticizing yourself or thinking less about yourself is never going to help you in life. So, love yourself and know that you are the most important person in your life and no one else.
“It is only me who will always stay with me”
It might be really difficult to accept, but the reality is, everyone in life will leave you one day or you will have to leave them one day, irrespective of the strong bonds you might have shared once or for the whole life. The only person who will always remain with you is only “you”. Future can never be predicted and a person or a situation can change any time. So, accept the fact that life is extremely volatile and people are not constant either. If you are looking for someone who will be around you always, in your every happiness and sorrow, then it is only yourself. This will help you to accept the breakup.
“Being happy is the only thing I need”
Have you ever thought why you were in that relationship at the first place? It is only in pursuit of happiness. The only thing we are looking for in our life is happiness and we build a relationship just to achieve that. So, your relationship was a step to reach happiness but it is not the happiness itself. Your happiness lies within you and hence losing a person does not make you lose your objective. If the person whom you have accepted as the way to reach happiness is no more in your life, the best way is to look out for other ways to reach happiness. Focusing more on your career, giving more time to your family, getting engaged in learning something new or doing something that you actually enjoy, all can bring you happiness and hence a break up should not make you feel that you cannot be happy.
“I am complete on my own”
When you are in a relationship, dependencies crop in naturally. With time you might start to believe that you cannot live your life without the other person and hence when a break up happens things come like shock. However, if you look at life and at yourself in a more deeper way you will understand that every life is complete on its own. You are a full life and not a half of it that will need another person to be complete. You are sufficient for yourself, not only to meet your financial needs but also to fulfill your emotional requirements. Every life on this planet is a full life and they can live even without sharing their lives with someone else.
“It is not the end of the world”
No matter how big or depressing it seems to tackle your feelings right after a breakup, tell yourself that it is not certainly the end of the world. Breakups are sad but they do happen and in fact they happen a lot; you are not the only one who is going through this type of ordeal. Sudden breakups feel devastating to everyone but with time things start to seem better and it will be the same for you as well. Irrespective of how worst you are feeling right after the breakup, things will improve and in few months you will even forget half of the moments that you had ever shared in your last relationship. A breakup makes sure that the relationship is now a thing of the past and with time the memories of that relationship will become only the past for you too. So, no matter how hard it might feel at first, it will pass.
“Breakup is for good”
This is one aspect of breakup that we often fail to see right after a breakup. A breakup directly indicates that there were major differences between the partners engaged in the relationship. Living your life with a partner with many differences can be actually a very difficult thing as that will work as the source of frequent disagreements and spats. While it might be emotionally challenging to let go off some sweet memories that you might have shared together, but letting a person who has major differences with you go out of your life, can actually be good for you both.
“I hated his habits”
If you take a close look at your relationship you can easily find that there were many things that you actually hated about the person for whom you are now crying your heart out or gulping down glasses of drink. Try to remember what exactly you hated about him. It might be his dumb hairstyle or the way he talked at some times or his habit to spend the whole day playing the computer game. Once you are able to chart up his habits that you actually hated, you will slowly start to feel that he has gone out of your life for good.
“He did not deserve me”
If you are sorry because you feel cheated after the break up, make your mind that the cheater does not really deserved you. Being honest is vital in a relationship and if he has been dishonest to you, it is really good that he has left. Honesty is a quality that you cannot really expect from everyone. The person who deserves you should have qualities that are nonetheless lesser than you. So, if your boyfriend has cheated on you, know for sure that he never deserved you.
“Now I can enjoy my freedom”
One of the best things about breakups is that it gives you back all the freedom that you might have compromised for the sake of the relationship. Going out with friends whenever you want, checking out on others, focusing more on the things you actually care about and love, now you are free again to do all that. A relationship often comes in your way of living your life in your own style. After a breakup, you become free again and can start living your life in your own terms which can be most amazing. A breakup does not mean becoming alone, it means giving more time to other people and other things in life that you actually care about. So, go out with your friends and enjoy your full freedom as much as you can instead of sitting and crying at home.
“I will get someone better”
Your ex is not the only man in the world and there are people much better than him. Once you are no longer with him, you always have the chance to stumble upon someone even better than him. So, after the breakup keep in mind that this sad incident might be actually good for you as it will give you the option to meet someone better who might actually give you all the support that your ex was never able to provide.
Some phrases from the famous people to help you cope with breakups
To feel better after a breakup apart from telling yourself the above phrases also check out some of the following quotes from the famous people. These quotes can actually make you feel much better no matter how down you are feeling right now right after the breakup,
“To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose is the next best.” – William Makepeace Thackeray
“If the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?” – Nicholas Sparks
“Everyone’s allowed to be in love with the wrong person at some point. In fact, it’s a mistake not to be.” – Harriet Evans
“What’s broken is broken — and I’d rather remember it as it was than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived.” – Margaret Mitchell
So, keep the above phrases in mind if you are depressed with a breakup and move on with life.